Marriage & Money

How do you manage money in your marriage? How do you communicate about money? What is the volume level when you discuss money with your spouse? Do you ever play the blame game? Are you and your partner in agreement about your financial goals? The topic of money in a marriage can be combustible and cause damage to your relationship. Below are some suggestions about handling money and marriage.

1) No Money Secrets – You and your spouse need to be truthful and honest about financial decisions. While you don’t have to discuss every spending decision, it’s important to have an open and honest relationship about money. You and your spouse need to agree on an a purchase amount that requires you discuss it together. Dishonesty with money can rapidly dissolve the foundational issue of trust in your relationship

2) Have Fun Money – All work no play makes for a dreadful marriage when it comes to money. Each partner needs a small amount of money that he/she can use with no explanation necessary. The critical thing is that you make a “Fun” category in your budget and put this in there. Remember if you don’t tell money where to go you will wonder where it went. Have fun but keep this amount small (especially if you have lots of debt).

3) Discuss money at the right time and place – When it comes to discussing money issues timing is very important. Discussing important financial decisions right before bed may not be the best choice. Discussing money when one or both spouses are stressed is not a good idea. The right time and place will vary from one couple to the next.

4) Attack the problem not the person – Money talks can become volatile in no time flat. Remember you and your spouse are in this marriage as a team, not individuals. If you find your decibels rising it is best to call a time out and discuss the issue at a later time. Playing the blame game very seldom results in a positive outcome. Don’t bring up unrelated topics that will inflame the discussion. Stick to the point and remember you both are on the same team. Be willing to compromise. Very few marriage arguments result in one partner getting all of their demands met.

If you can find ways to peacefully and respectfully discuss money in your marriage, you are at a happy place. Remember that you and your spouse are on the same team. While your opinions will vary, it’s important to commit to hearing each other and reaching compromises. Remember it takes teamwork to make the dream work.

How to Spend Your Tax Refund

Are you going to be receiving a tax refund this year? The average tax refund in the U.S. is $3,120. What do you usually spend it on? Vacation? New furniture? Pay off debt? Invest for retirement? Here are some suggestions on the best use of your tax refund.
1)Fund a $1000 Emergency Fund.
Why? Life will happen. The unexpected will occur. Cars need repairing. Unexpected medical bills occur. Things wear out and have to be replaced. Having this $1000 is a buffer between you and life. Don’t neglect getting this done with your first grand. It’s a good idea to put this money in a separate savings account that can be linked to your checking account. I highly recommend http://www.capitalone360.com or http://www.ally.com Both of these can be set up in about 15 minutes online. Transferring the money to your checking account usually takes 48 hours.
2) Have some fun with some 0f it (up to $500). You worked hard for this refund and you deserve some fun with some of it.
3) Use your remaining money to Pay Off Debt! If you have any other money left after the fun, Pay off Debt!! List all of your debts smallest to largest. Place your remaining money toward the smallest debt. Debt is just stress for most families. Putting some portion of your refund toward debt helps relieve the stress the debt puts on your life.
Best of luck!

Winning with Money

You must live by a budget. You must tell your money where to go. You need to have every dollar assigned to a destination before you spend a penny. Select www.everydollar.com All you need is an email address and a password. You must have a “Savings” category. If you don’t save money, you don’t win with money. What should you save for? Back to school, vacation, retirement and car repairs are just a few examples. If you don’t tell your money where to go, you’ll wonder where it went. Those that fail to plan, plan to fail. Go ahead and get that budget started today.